In episode 023 I gave you some tips to help you navigate through saying “No” to your boss in a way that allows you to keep your job and get what you want. Today we’re continuing in that same vein by discussing the 10 steps that you need to take to respectfully and appropriately disagree with your boss along with some stories that help make the point. These tools will help you in your relationship with your boss as well by helping them see you in a different and more positive light.
10 Ways to Build a Foundation for Positive Disagreement:
1. You first need to have a relationship with your boss so that you have a foundation to build on.
2. You have a record of making your boss look good.
3. You have a history of practicing personal courage.
4. You’ve exhibited a commitment to the overall success of the business.
5. You are straightforward and you don’t play games.
6. You don’t make your boss feel like an idiot (even if they are one!).
7. You use your boss as a mentor.
8. You have your boss’s back.
9. You don’t go over your boss’s head to plead your case.
10. You are good communicator who can express yourself convincingly with evidence and rationale.
How do you actually disagree with your boss?
1. If possible, disagree in private.
2. Start if off by saying “I’ve thought about it and I have some thoughts I want to discuss.”
3. Watch for their reaction and change your tactics according to the tone of the conversation.
This is a process which you can learn from over time and fine tune as you learn from it. It will raise the level of respect for you from the people you work with and will improve your career.
ACTION ASSIGNMENT: Start working on building a stronger foundation with your boss so that when the time comes you have somewhere to stand when taking your stand.